I wrote to him about love after reading about his loss of faith.
To which he replied:
“Well said. I envy the man. I don’t think anyone has ever loved me that way, I’d like to think I would have known. I’d like to say that I don’t care any more. I think I would be lying if I did. I know for certain that the world cares not.”
IF THE WORLD CARED NAUGHT
It could be entirely possible that no one will ever love you the way that I love. It is also more than likely that the world has little empathy for your loveless condition. You are correct on all accounts, especially your admission to caring when you wish you didn’t. I can relate and I concur with a question.
What do you plan to do about it?
I wake up every day knowing that I have a gift that I can only give one person. I carry all the love in the world inside my heart which is as true as white lacks color and black swallows light. People are drawn to my energy because I am that good. I love everyone, especially the least deserving. So what is left?
My last breath, the responsibility of it, because that is what you give to breathe life into a lasting relationship. I have always given love everything I have and it saved me just as it tore me down. It sounds like you haven’t even begun to try. You mentioned previously that you put your focus on other things, your career specifically, because girls were shallow back when most were falling in love Romeo and Juliet style. Congrats to you. If I had a son that is the advice I would give him, “Make that money first. Women are dream killers.”
If you’ve made that bank, and it sounds like you have, you are more than ready for a trophy wife. She should be in her twenties, but avoid the ones that stand out as obvious 10′s. You want a girl you can lead around and 10′s are leashless. Nab yourself a seven to start and then upgrade as your status and bankroll require. The more successful you are in your career the hotter she will need be. Don’t put too much stock in that first wife, and get a pre-nup, because you will be trading her in a decade from now.
HOW DO YOU LIKE THAT DREAM?
It’s not mine. Women kill dreams with dreams of their own and we all have a picture in our head of what it’s like. I know exactly what I am looking for in a man and it is electric. This piece of the puzzle is the absolute best advice I can give you. Our choices have little to do with love, or precise circumstances. If you want love there are thousands of broken available girls, damsels in need of love’s rescuing. I know guys exactly the same way. This one dude actually went out and had a broken heart tattooed on his chest when his girlfriend broke up with him. I laughed my freaking ass off. What kind of man gets a band-aided heart tattoo. Pansy Ass. I think I forgot to mention that part. The tattoo had a band aid. A broken heart with a band aid. Over a girl… WHAT!? Some women eat that sh*t up. Let this guy give you hope. He fell “In Love” with someone else a few months later, on the internet, and moved the chick in two weeks after their first interaction. They are still together to this day, and my hyena cackling ass is still single.
LOVE IS FOREVER AND MARRIAGE ISN’T NECESSARY
I am a fan of Tom Lykis even though many argue that he is nothing more that a fat, lazy, prick. I agree with all three opinions and think he should hire me as his personal trainer. There is much to be learned from his choices, while remaining cognizant that his target demographic are the college ages, and that he himself has been married plenty. He is a fan of divorce, while Bill Maher is a proponent for flat out abstinence, NO MARRIAGE EVER. I fell in love with Bill after he flat out said he will never get married because he likes to sleep with lots of women. Bravo. These men are true to their wants in life respectably. A brilliant institution, and OH SO SEXY! I personally would never date either because the idea of having sex with them makes me want to scratch out my own vagina. I do not want that sh*t on top of me. YUCK.
If you didn’t listen to the video I posted from the Tom Lykis show, I suggest you do. As in right now, and be sure to listen to George and Bill while you are at it. Tom says something that I hope you understand. He says, “There is no benefit to being married. You can have the exact same experience without the piece of paper.” I know that you did not mention marriage, but true love is a progression with obvious results at least once. I was married for so long that I agree with him completely. I remember when divorce became the topic of my relationship. He had fallen out of love with me and suggested that he wanted out. It was a numbing devastation, but then also a practicality. “OK Bye then. I love you anyway. I don’t know what you think a divorce will change. It’s just more paper. We will still have the same life, with the same daughter to raise, and while you are not busy loving me I will be getting sh*t done. Do you need a flower and a card or something because life is just harder without a team.”
I remember throwing it in his face too. “Do you really want to pay me child support?” Pay attention to that damage. The price of a broken contract. If he didn’t care about me I would have him care about the stress of money. Where is the support in that and what about the child? Love is doing right by those you care about it even when it hurts, and they don’t care to return the favor. My ex doesn’t pay me a dime for child support because I know he makes enough for him, and he will take care of her. I am that kind of cool chick. Tom mentions cool chicks being cool just so the guy will eventually change his mind about wanting something more. Smart women don’t imagine men as capable of change and so we avoid the train wrecks avidly. Smart women don’t really mind that guys are dicks, because we expect them to be and let me tell you something about cool chicks, cool chicks will always be cool and guys love them because they are fun times. If a woman is leaving you four years into a relationship because you wouldn’t put a ring on her finger it has nothing to do with wanting to be married and everything to do with the fact that she is pissed that you are keeping her an ego boost away from “The Woman Of My Dreams.”
Men give us power and the smart ones understand that a motivated woman can open every door in life, and an empowered woman can take over the world. Men get married when they realize what they can create. Do you want to receive love or do you want to give it?
HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT?
I am telling you right now that you can have what ever you want, if you are aware of what you are looking for. I mentioned needing electricity and it is rare, but I’ve found it. It is a magnetism that supersedes looks and relationship checklists. One zap and you are hooked. My problem is that I am not exactly comfortable being shocked and so I do my absolute best to sabotage it. Knowing that someone has enough power over me to move me past reason… YIKES! I like to be on top.
The guy I am looking for knows how to show me the bottom’s better, and he considers the idea of proving it his duty. His confidence comes from knowing that he has mastered the art of pleasing a woman and he is so sure of his skill that he knows that once is all he will need.
IF
If I only give him a chance.
Why should I? The bottom is still not top. Rolling could be fun….
DO YOU EVEN WANT IT? REALLY?
Look at me over here talking big sh*t like I have this life thing figured out. The brilliance is that I do. I know that I can lay out my plans nice and neat for days, weeks, and years to come, but that some asshole will eventually and inevitably f*ck them all up by making me want to change. What else can I do besides resist the force? If you wanted to be loved you would be. People are selfish that way, gratification seekers that we are. While I appreciate your woeful longing for love I don’t buy it. What if the world doesn’t care and every single woman on earth banded together to form a pact, “See that guy over there… He is the non-pussiest getting motherf*cker on the planet and don’t you dare love him. NOPE. We all agreed.” That CAN be your life, but if it is then recognize that it is of your own creation because most women do not like each other enough to agree on anything. The odds are in your favor for love, there are three women to every one man by counts alone. You lucky son of a b*tch.
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
